#27 ~ "Keep It Up"



Proverbs 12:4 says, "A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." Whew! Decay is his bones is pretty clear that a disgraceful wife is detrimental to her husband and brings him pain, but what exactly does being your husband's crown mean? Hmmm...Well! Glad you asked! It's one of the main things I learned as I became a wife. Often times, it is human nature to become lazy or lose energy and passion for something once we've had it for quite some time. For some of us, we get bored with something after a few weeks, months or even a few days to the extent we have the mindset "I have it now, so my work is done." Welllll....not quite dear heart.

I desire for us all to be women and men of substance. However, men are very visual! That's the way they were created and designed by God. Therefore, whatever you did to get your husband (that was Godly), keep it up! If you made sure that your hair was done or kept, please don't turn into the 24-7 bonnet queen once you get married. If he loves your maxi skirts in the summer, then maxi it up. Don't fall into the myth that you've got him and you don't need to do any work. That is a LIE. Marriage is work and if you get lazy on a job, your performance and work relationships will suffer! Don't allow the most important job to go lacking. WORK! WORK! WORK! Now, let me put a disclaimer in here to clear up any possible confusion because I know that many women get upset with the thought that they have to keep themselves up to avoid their spouse committing adultery. I am not in any shape, fashion, or form saying that there is EVER justification for a spouse to commit adultery by cheating on his/her spouse. We are instructed in the Word of God to stay faithful to our marital vows and the covenant between a husband and wife.

(Proverbs 5:15-19 ~ You should be faithful to your wife, just as you take water from your own well. And don’t be like a stream from which just any woman may take a drink. Save yourself for your wife and don’t have sex with other women. Be happy with the wife you married when you were young. She is beautiful and graceful, just like a deer; you should be attracted to her and stay deeply in love.)

As you see, the Bible is very clear about staying faithful to your spouse and staying committed to your marriage covenant. However, we have a job to do as well ladies. We must ensure that we keep it up. What is the "it" you ask? Well, only you and your husband know what makes him blush and desire you like never before. Every man has a particular outfit or look that they love to see their wife wear. He may even have a favorite hairstyle, lipstick color or just a thing that you do. If he tells you that he loves your weekly massages, keep it up. Don't let it fall to the wayside because the Lord has blessed you with him and you've "got him." Keep it up. If you always give him a long hug after a hard day of work, and he falls into your arms with comfort, don't forget about those moments and his needs. Keep that stuff up. He'll be forever grateful.

Fellas, I'm sure you love what you've read thus far, but you're not off the hook either. This is for you as well. Keep it up. Always be a student of your wife as you aim to learn different things about her on a constant basis. I learn something new about my husband almost every day. If you pampered her with an occasional mani and pedi date, then keep it up. I understand that financially things may change, but when you have a little extra cash, make sure to do the things that you know she loves. What makes her smile BIG and jump for joy? Is it a day at the spa? New gym shoes or workout clothes? Is it a vacation? Find out and master it. And if you've already learned what makes her overjoyed, keep it up.

Would you let your new car sit without ever taking it to get an oil change or a tune-up or ever taking it to the carwash? I certainly hope not or the car would begin to lose its quality and shine. In the same way, treasure your marriage and remember to "keep it up."

 

 

Nuggets to remember:

1) Ladies, you are his crown. Therefore, YOU make HIM look good. Make sure that you're doing that in your words, actions and appearance.

2) Learn his/her love language if you don't know it already, and be prepared for it to change over the years.

3) Once you learn it, master it and do what you can to appease his/her love language.

4) Whatever you did in the beginning stages, keep it up. ;-)

God Bless!

~ CW